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About a year and a half ago I met Caroline in university. At the time we were both in relationships so nothing happened.

She e-mailed me out of the blue a couple of months ago. I hadn't heard from her for over a year. We ended up going out for drinks and dinner. It went very well. When I drove her back home, she invited me in for one last drink but I turned her down.

A week later we went out for dinner again. We talked and laughed for over six hours and things went great. A few days later I invited her out to a concert and she quickly accepted. She put on a really nice dress and was incredibly sexy.

After the concert, we went back to my place for chocolate and booze. That's when things became weird... She told me that I was the only guy she was seeing and that she canned all of the other guys who were pursuing her. Meanwhile, she says she doesn't want anything too complicated as she'd like to stay single for another two months...

Since then, she has been very busy and has e-mailed to let me know that she'd be tied up for a couple of weeks.

What do you think of the mixed signals I've been receiving from Caroline?

sounds like shes interested in you and wants to keep you around but is indecisive about actually wanting to commit.

She let you know that shes interested and interested only in you - "canning all other persuers". Shes telling you that she exclusively likes you, even if she isn't ready to exclusively commit.

Her saying shes busy may be one of two things.
She's testing you, in a way, to see if you'll stick around, if your attraction to her is genuine and won't wan after a couple of weeks...which is silly.

Or shes keeping you at an arms length to stay in control of the situation and budding relationship - saying she's busy, not really even regarding your schedule...

Now the ball is in your court, so to speak. Even though it may appear like she's in charge of where it's going, its really up to you whether or not to follow through.

She could just be very cautious with her emotions and in regards to relationships....orrrrrrrr she could be stringing you on.
I personally think its the former because she let you know she wasn't interested in anyone else...and she let you know that she didn't want anything for two months....

It sounds like she may be waiting for someone else to return back to where you live or something of that nature with the whole "waiting 2 months" thing. I find it hard to believe that in 2 weeks she couldn't find a couple of hours in one of those days to make time for you though.

Maybe just wait it out and take it as a casual thing until she makes the next move.
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She's playing games, and may be miffed you aren't chasing harder. "How dare you not come in for a last drink and throw yourself at me?" I would discount the "putting off all other pursuers" comment, sounds manipulative and people who really do turn down opportunities for a special person don't gloat about it, and they especially don't say something like that and then say they want to be single for two more months, huh?!?

EDIT P.S. what's the "alpha female" angle in this? just wondering about the thread title.

I agree that she is playing games. Her comments that there are other pursuers aim to give me the impression that she is sought after and has a high value.

She never cancelled a date on me. It's just difficult to get her to commit to one but when she does (even if it's several days ahead), she's always on time. When we're together things go very well.

I used the "alpha female" moniker as she's the "very busy" career-oriented type who always makes sure her agenda is filled with activities.

My personal impression is that either she's not that interested anymore or she's interested but afraid I might use her for sex or she's interested but doesn't want me to think she's easy.

I'll have my answer for sure within the next two weeks but in the interim I am rather anxious with all of the mixed signals

Of course she is playing games. Everyone does, and those who claim they are not are just playing a weaker game than those who are aware of it.
She wanted to USE YOU for sex! Jeez, open your eyes!
You turned her down, and it seems you haven't obliged her as of yet, if I am not mistaken.
This is why she started to back off.
She told you she had canned all the other guys (of course she has not!) to see how needy you were, whether you were going to want to jump into a relationship. Not sure what you said here but this would have been her prompt to rebuff you. (Becasuse right after she then told you she "wanted to be single for two months". ??? hahaha! I love women!)
It seems you didn't play up to this. So she remained interested in using you for sex. But still you didn't oblige! So, now, she has resorted to playing more hard to get. She was obviously very horny on the first few dates, and very attracted to you, but you failed to read her signals and thus she has resorted to new ones, which again you are not responding to.

Huntsman, I initially thought she wanted sex so I brought her back to my place after the concert. When I hinted at the topic, she started to give me the "many guys want me but I don't want them" and "I don't like guys who want to have sex on first dates", etc. So casual sex is unfortunately out of the question...

When she said she had dumped all of the other candidates, I laughed and said "I suppose this makes me a very lucky man...". So I basically didn't answer anything and kept chatting. She came up with those interesting lines on her own...

I never told her what I wanted from her and it's much too early to talk about a relationship. I just ask her out and have a good time.

The reason I asked about the "alpha female" thing is that certain aspects of the behavior you are describing fits my most recent ex to a "t," she was exactly the "alpha female" type (on the surface at least), and that woman turned out to be the most disordered human being I've ever met. Always making it a point to let on how many men were flirting with her or desiring her. Mixed signals, nutty statements akin to the "wanting to stay single" comment she made to you. Be very very careful with this one. Best wishes.