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Old 10-06-2007, 10:27 AM
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Default I was in a really bad relationship

Hi,
I was in a really bad relationship until last January. We were engaged and I discovered he was cheating on me for at least 3 months of that time. A friend told me and I left the loser.
But with that said, that is partially why I am having trust issues with my current relationship, I believe.
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Old 10-06-2007, 10:29 AM
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Honestly? If you can't be in a relationship with someone without feeling the need to read his emails, check his browser history and analyze every move he makes, you're not ready to be in a relationship. You might think the relationship is blissful, but you're obviously not happy - and you're going to make him VERY unhappy if you continue.

I strongly suggest you seek some professional counseling. You said so you that you know he's not your ex and you shouldn't treat him this way - yet you can't control your feelings. Personally, I don't think you're ready to be in a relationship at all. Your inability to trust is going to sabotage your relationship, unless you get help. You need more help than a message board can provide.
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Old 10-06-2007, 10:33 AM
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You either need to stop this, or end the relationship.

If you continue, the relationship will end eventually; only on much worse terms. And with you feeling even worse about yourself.
This isn't fair to this guy. You need to really understand that. You have absolutely NO right to go through his email, check his web history or anything similar - even if he says it's alright. It's not alright. It's sick. You're making him pay for what someone else did.
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Old 10-06-2007, 10:35 AM
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If counseling/therapy can be the difference between living a happy, comfortable, secure life and having a constant knot in your stomach, you can't afford not to get it.
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Old 10-06-2007, 10:37 AM
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You are sabotaging a good thing by undermining the very basics of a relationship. He is not your ex. And therapy is a good thing. They even have free or sliding scale counseling in some places based on income.

And you may need more time to heal from your broken engagement rather than try to be half-yourself in a new one.
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Old 10-06-2007, 10:38 AM
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I hope you have found someone who will not cheat. But sometimes it is a good idea to listen to your instincts. Good luck to you.
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