INTIMACY WITH YOUR CHILD_single parent For every night I had my son I ended the night this way. "Noah, daddy loves you. Then I kissed him on the forehead. Then, as I exited his doorway, I would turn back and say directly to him, "if you need me, you know where I am". And with that I would head straight to my own bedroom not ten feet away and with an angst-sigh, generated from the understanding of the sheer responsibility of being a single dad to my son.
But I played out this traditional goodnight for fifteen consecutive years because I wanted my son to know that he was loved deeply before his day ended and his dreamtime began. I needed him to know that I would never be far away. Single parent guilt? Perhaps. I wanted him to know that I thought he was the most important person in the world so he would wake up the next day believing same thing. It's called liking yourself, the first step to your child's road to success in love and work. |