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How long would you wait to move in with someone? I have moved VERY fast in the past with exes and want to do it right this time. I have been with someone for over 7 months and we are planning on moving in together within the next month. Is that too soon? We are alos planning on getting married in about 2 years. I have 2 daughters, he has no kids.

It sounds like a reasonable amount of time.

Personally, I'd say its much too soon. But each person has their own time frame and guideline.

For me 6 months is a minimum for how long it takes to get to know someone well enough to be sure that you love them as they really are and not as some fake image they present. I wouldn't consider moving before at least 12 months go by.

You certainly shouldn't be planning marriage at this early a stage. I'd be really concerned that there was plans for it at this stage

Why would you be concerned? You just said yourself that it takes at least 6 months to really know someone. And by the time we get married we will have been together for 2 years. How long do you wait till you get married? Just curious.

I personally couldn't do it. Not with kidlets.

I married my second husband after dating a bit over a year, but we never lived together beforehand. I didn't want to. But that's just my choice for me. There are others here that have done it, and I'm sure they'll pipe in.

Well, I really love him and hes great with my kids. I just have cold feet all of a sudden. One day I am fine with it, the next I panic!

How "onvolved" will the move be? You and the little darlins' moving in with him..he moving in with you getting a new place altogether? What about the kid's biodad? Is he in the picture? Are there any "negatives" you can think of? How undoable is this if the situation warrants?

How cold are your feet? Have you shared this with your guy? Has he tried to reassure you?

He definitely respected me for it. He asked me repeatedly to move in, and I had to explain to him that it would never ever happen. He admitted to me later, after we were married, that while he would have loved for me to move in, he was glad in a way that I said no. Of course, he wasn't asking me about moving in to test me he really meant it. And I certainly wasn't just holding out for a ring on my finger. It all just turned out the way it was meant to be.

The biggest benefit I see to living together is to see if you're compatible for marriage. We spent every weekend together (some weekends as family time with my son; other weekends alone as a couple). We talked on the phone daily when we didn't see each other. I felt completely comfortable that we could have a successful happy marriage at the point he asked me. So, no, I wouldn't have done it any differently. If I hadn't been sure, I wouldn't have said yes and married him when I did.

Speaking of living together, my husband and I aren't even living together right now!! We're moving out of state next June (after school gets out), but he's already gone ahead to get started on his new job (and living with his brother). It's weird that while everyone else thinks we're crazy, he and I never gave a second thought to things being OK with us living apart. Things are that strong and that good between us.

I just cannot see myself getting married before living together. No way. I need to try living together first. Because marriage for me is for good.

How long have you been married to your 2nd husband? Is it working well? Do you think it made a difference not living together first? Would you change that now?

Each of your daughters have different dads? No judgement here just curious.

You know how well you all know each other, better than any of us. Six months for some is nowhere near enough time six months for others may seem an eternity. I lived with my ex for four and a half years before marriage. I never saw anything I couldn't live with prior to marriage. Four and a half years after that came the divorce. There are no real assurances or guarantees. Use the "force" smiley.