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I was dumped about 6 months ago and after the usual talking, pleading, hoping, dying for a reconciliation I finally came to realize that it was not going to happen and my behavior was pushing him a was so I started NC.

It has been about 3 weeks now. Yesterday I received a massage from him saying he was thinking of me and hoped I was well and happy. I did not respond. Today he has sent another masage asking a direct question. The question is in relation to mutual business issues nothing serious seeming insignificant really.

What I need to know is should I respond? When should you respond if at all?
Essentially I want the relationship back and am trying to minimize further damage please offer me some good advise.

Good advise is that unless it's of some business importance and not just a ruse for maintaining contact, don't respond at all. If it IS a reasonable business question treat it as such as if I (someone you don't have a relationship with) asked you about a business matter.

I do yet in the back of my mind there is a thought that he will understand what he has rejected and will take action to get me back.
Is this just naive?
Why does he contact me to say he hopes I am well?if there is no thought of me in his mind surely it wouldn’t occur to him to contact?

Dumpers often try to maintain contact for their own selfish reasons which have nothing to do with getting back together. Often it is just an ego boost. Unless he makes it very clear and direct that he wants to talk about things and try to reconcile, I would not respond to him for any lame excuse he uses unless it is really legitimate. He didn't want to be with you so let him live his life completely and totally without you. When a dumper wants to reconcile, there are no head games and wishy washy vague contacts the dumper who wants to reconcile will make it crystal clear beyond the shadow of a doubt what his/her intentions are.

THANK YOU. You are both so right. Just needed a little clarity. Hearing from him is painful and confusing. I will not respond unless it is a definitive request for reconciliation.

There is another contact issue here though .I have a 12 year old daughter. He formed a relationship with her also and has requested contact from her. Do I allow this or not?