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Hi,
My broken heart story is as follows.

I (43) met this wonderful lady (34) six months ago and we really hit it off. We had a lot in common and could talk about anything and everything for hours. She has a high pressure job and two young children. She has been separated for a year and her divorce was due to be final in a few months.
We kept an exciting relationship and I really started to get strong feelings for her. I felt that she was the one I had been waiting for. After a month we shared that we loved each other and wanted to build something together. My job takes me out of the country for months at a time so we knew that separation would be a challenge. We also thought that this separation would be good to slow us down and allow sometime to pass before we were together. I do love her and care for her greatly, she loves that I am a total gentleman to her, and she said I was from a past era in terms of my manners and care for people.

We saw each other a few times during the next few months while I was away and kept in daily contact. We laughed that is was like a high school romance. All of our friends who saw us together commented on how great we looked together and that we seemed to be a good match.
After her divorce was final I sensed a change and she told me that we were going way too fast and that she did not want to jump from man to man and needed some time to be herself and not in a committed relationship. This was after four months together. She also mentioned that she wants to be free to date other people if she is asked. I understood, agreed and gave her space to do this. I wanted to show her that my intentions were in fact honorable, and I would give her some time to collect her thoughts and focus on her new life. She very much appreciated my actions and told me that they showed what a kind, unselfish and caring person I was. It hurt like hell to have this break, but I knew that she needs to get through her divorce in her own way.

I left town due to work and she kept in contact with me. She asked me to join her for a work function and I declined telling her that we need this time apart and it would be very tough emotionally for me to see her. Let’s just keep in touch and be friends for each other. After hearing that I would not meet her, she confessed that she missed me and thought about me all the time. I decide to fly home in a few weeks to spend the weekend with her. We had a great weekend with her children and they really enjoyed me and our time together, we did not discuss anything heavy and I could tell that she was emotionally drained. Towards the end of the weekend I noticed that she did not want to discuss anything about us in the future, even when we would see each other again. She mentioned that she was very angry at her ex for leaving her children and it was hard to see me where he should have been. This indicated to me that she still had a long way to go before she was over her divorce. I figured it was over at that point and to move on.
I left and started to get to work forgetting her and moving on with my life. We exchanged a few short e-mails and she stated that I am not the one for her, she does not know who that is, or when she will be ready for him but it is not now, and to not hate her.

I responded that I accept that, and felt it was best if we went our separate ways and that I will always wish her nothing but wonderful things. It was a very kind letter and I wanted her to know that there were no hard feelings, and perhaps in time we could be friends. She responded thank you and that she would like to be friends in the future.

I am still crazy about her and don’t want to lose her. She is all I think about and I have never cared or felt so strongly about anyone. I can really see us together. Is there any hope? I feel that no contact is best for now unless she starts it. I am trying to take care of myself and know that I need to accept that she is gone and get on with my life. Part of me has the wishful thinking that once she recovers from her own grief that we start again with the existing spark. What are my chances, and possible course of action?

You handled yourself with dignity and that is important. It is best not to keep the hope alive because that will prevent you from moving on. Although she was separated for a year, she was obviously very hurt about the end of her marriage and the actual divorce was a blow because it meant the end of her marriage was final. She needs to work through the anger she feels towards her ex so she will not be capable of loving anyone else until she gets through that anger and sadness. Perhaps once she has dealt with all of those emotions, she will think of you and remember how kind, understanding and patient you were and she will want to resume a relationship with you. There are no guarantees that she will and it is better to move on with your life and put her out of your mind as best as you can. If you are truly meant to be together, she will come back into your life but it is better for you emotionally if you resign yourself to the fact that she will not be a part of your life a difficult thing to do when you are in love but a necessary thing to do for your own well-being.

I am still having the hardest of times trying to accept that she is gone. I want to think that once she gets over her divorce, that she will remember me and want me back in her life. I am not making contact, and have not heard from her since she told me I was not the man for her. It hurts, and I can understand her position, I just miss my friend. I feel very used and discarded at times, I thought she was the one and our magic would last through any test.

I think you need to give her space. It sounds as though the divorce has hit her hard. Just give her time, she will remember how good and understanding you have been and when she is ready she may come and seek you out.

If you guys are meant to be it will happen. If not, someone else will come along there is light at the end of the tunnel either way.

I know these things aren't always nice to hear, especially when you are still in love with someone. It is very hard to let go of the idea that you are meant to be. You may not even want to let go of that idea. But give the situation time, things will work out for the best and know that you will be happy.

Thank you both for the support. I have cleared everything in regard to letters and photos out, and have resolved to make myself not contact her and know that she is gone. I feel good at times and a bit down at times but all in all I am doing OK. I find myself slightly angry at her, but also sad for her and what she must be going through. I know the former is selfish, and I am working on just wishing the best for her, and taking care of myself. My confidence and self esteem is coming back at an alarming rate!

That is great that you are beginning to regain your confidence and self esteem!

You will still have a few down moments, but you will be stronger and much better able to deal with them but the general trend is UP!

Good for you.
Take care.

I have had a rough two days. Can't seem to get her out of my mind and I often end up in tears. I just don't understand where all the love from her went. The things she used to say to me were like I have never felt before. I feel so used and discarded.

Looking for answers, no word from her all week.

I have had a rough two days.Can't seem to get her out of my mind and I often end up in tears. I just don't understand where all the love from her went. The things she used to say to me were like I have never felt before. I feel so used and discarded.

Looking for answers, no word from her all week.

As I have learned the hard way seems like people lose that flame. I have heard my ex tell me that she loves me so much and that I am one of the most important people in her life as well as her best friend. I thought relationships were built on these feelings. I dont know what to think anymore. I love her and miss her so much but at the same time I want her to be happy.