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Hi to everyone. I need help.
I am on NC for 26 days and still miss and love my ex girlfriend very much (3 years relationship and 30 days since breakup). My friend saw her with her new boyfriend couple days ago. When I heard that, I started to feel terrible. Before that I was thinking of possible reconciliation, but now I am positive that I couldn’t be with her again because she has found new boyfriend in so short time. That fact makes me assume that her love wasn’t honest. She always was telling me that she could never be with new boyfriend or even kiss him after me. Now I see that I was very stupid. It hasn’t passed a month and she already is with an other guy.
I don’t know what to do. This feeling is so terrible.
Life sucks.
Pleas help

I know it hurts and feels terrible to see your love in some one else's arms but you know what there's NOTHING you can do about it. If you two have parted ways, then its a breakup. She doesn't owe you ANYTHING and you don't owe her NOTHING. So, try to keep your focus away from what's happenign in her life to what's keepin you busy. I am glad you are doing NC, because truly that's the only way to GO FORWARD.If she's moved on so fast , just goes to show she wasn't truly meant to be with you in the first place. Or could be the new guy is just a REBOUND, and she'll dump him until she resolves the issues in her head.I think u shudn't BOTHER and keep yourself occupied and LET GO of the past.

I'm in the same situation myself. A month ago my ex told a friend of mine that she's with someone (less than 3 months after our breakup and I have no idea how long she's been with him). I was devastated and I still am to a certain degree but believe me, it hurts less with time. I still get minor panic attacks from time to time and it saddens me but I've accepted the fact that she has moved on and it's about time that I get my head out of the sand and move on too. Keep your chin up buddy.

The fact that she found a boyfriend in no time does NOT necessarily mean she didn't love you when she was with you.
What it means is this: She is the type of person who cannot be alone and needs someone in her life. No one gets over a 3 years relationship after 30 days so you can almost be sure the guy she is dating now is a rebound. And guess what 9 times out of 10 rebounds don't work.

But again, if you chase her or try to repeatedly declare your feelings or try to bring the other guy down by criticizing him you will most likely push her into his arms.

As crazy as this sounds the best thing to do now is to stay away from her. Trust me, you think that by staying away she will forget you and thus she will fall in love with him. WRONG. Unless you were a total ***hole (and even then) she won't forget you. On the contrary, if you have already told her how you feel (only ONCE as there's no need to say it again and again) then she will start thinking about you and missing you.

Also, the fact that she is with a new boyfriend doesn't eliminate chances of a reconciliation in the future. How you act and what you say is what ultimately makes a difference. As tough as it is you should not let her know that you are bothered or sad or lonely.

You want her to think you are fine with her dating someone else because deep inside you know you are a catch and she will never find someone as good as you. That would make you look attractive.

Stay strong !

Thank you for answering so quickly.
Let me give you some more information, because I would appreciate your opinion. She wanted me to marry her. I wasn’t ready.
We were fighting a lot so this is not our first breakup. When we were separated before she was going through very difficult time without me, she was always thinking of me. She is very emotional and all those fights have had negative impact on her nerves. She sad that she couldn’t stand all those fights. Her friends were against me and were telling her to leave me. So here we are. We had our last terrible fight when she said that she lives me and that she will never answer my calls. I accepted that and that was the end of communication between us.The problem is that I didn’t tell her what I feel.
Than I started NC. I did that because when she left me before (because I said her some terrible things) I did some romantic gestures and convinced her to reconcile it was very difficult, but I succeeded.
I didn’t treat her bad, but I didn’t let her be in charge in the relationship what she wanted therefore we used to fight a lot. That is why her friends hate me, and have great influence on her to leave me.

I would appreciate your opinions.
Thanks

It's not nice to hear about for sure, but know that its more than likely a rebound thing, she hasen't healed or learnt from previous mistakes so doubt it will last.

You need to work on yourself, your healing and getting your life great again then you will hardly care about her or what she is doing.

It comes with time sweets

Did you tell her that you loved her recently ? If you did then there's no point in repeating it. What you need to do now is go work on solving your financial problems as much as possible and alone.

You broke up and she got back with you. Only the initial cause for the break up (correct me if I'm mistaken but it was the fact that you couldn't get married any time soon) was not eliminated.
Suppose you got her back tomorrow, can you commit ? What happens if you can't ? Will the fighting resume until she leaves again ?

Before you try to get her back I say you should get yourself back. That is the only guarantee you will have for keeping her around in the future.

Never mind the other guy, seriously. If you keep thinking about what she is doing with him and that she will never get back to you then you will most likely act in a desperate/angry way and you will push her away.
It's time to focus on YOU. The rest will be much easier to achieve when you do that.

I am in the same boat as you. I was in a loving, yet for a little over 9 months. My ex gf broke up with me late july. She told me she loves me so much and how important I was to her. Shortly after the break up I called her and told her how much I love her and I would move closer to her. I also found out that she started seeing someone less than a month after the breakup. Well, I thought about this and decided to go NC.Day 24 today. I realize that I lover her so much that I want her to be happy. Go NC it will help you heal and perhaps help her realize what she is missing.

That's great! And you should be proud of yourself. Do it for YOU, not for her and not for anybody else.
Ok, you are aware of your mistakes. Is she aware of hers ? I doubt she has had enough time alone to reflect on things like you did. That's why you need to step back for the time being. Things are still too "fresh" for a possible reconciliation to be successful.
As for the fact that she is more physically attractive than you.. I'd say that, as long as you're a confident man with acceptable looks, women (healthy smart women, not gold diggers) can fall for you just like they would for any other guy.
That's the kind of woman you want to marry: A smart and mentally healthy woman who knows how to be independent and yet still give her heart to the man she loves.

I know how you feel here My ex started dating someone else 6 weeks after we had broken up after being together a year and a half and I was like what the fcuk.

That feeling does diminish and slowly dissolves away.

Some great advice by Dreamguy.

Concentrate on YOU right now.If things were meant to be they will be.