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I know I post all over the boards, I'm just a broken hearted girl lookin for answers.

well he broke it off thursday. he doesn't feel the same anymore he says. each time ive talked to him which is everyday since then I ask at least once any second thoughts? he always says no not really. and then we talk and thats that.

we are long distance, and we always talked in morning and nite and now I talk to him once a day. he always answers me and if he doesnt answer, he always calls back.

last nite he was watching the football game at a friends, then went to the bar. when he got home, he got in bed and called me. he was drunk. but we talked, he asked what I'd been up to, and I told him. then he goes 'I'm surprised you havent aske me if I am having second thoughts' I laughed and said 'well I already asked you once today' cuz I did but then he said I shouldnt talk to you when Im drunk bout this and I said ok goodnite, and he said nite and hung up.

the vibe I get from him is he is confused. I honestly feel if he was real bout this breakup he'd just stop talkin to me. thats what he did in the past. this happened out of nowehre, we were doing good when he broke it off.

I keep repeating myself but I just dont get it. hes the type that would just stop talkin if he meant it. Am I foolish? I think that maybe if I stop calling as much, he will start wondering whats goin on. any advice for me? I'm a fool

I would hope your bf of 2 years wouldnt just leave you cos his boss had some "discussion" with him. What would happen if you two were married then?

anyway I think you REALLY need to stop asking him that question, it's not helping. Just makes you seem VERY needy and desperate which isnt something anyone would wnat to run back to

You also have to give him alot of space to actually think whether he really wants a reconcilation or not. Im not a big advocate for NC most of the time but I think this time you might need to do that so you can stop being predictable or you could go the LC route, but the contact should be VERY limited, he has not know you're not just there waiting for him 24/7.

Don't hang on to false hope. He is stringing you along and getting a kick out of it. Don't keep asking him if he has second thoughts he is thriving on that power you have given him. If I were you, I would do no contact immediately so you can get your head together and re think things. If he calls, tell him you are in the middle of something and can't talk. He may be confused so let him take the time to un-confuse himself alone. Why should you be dragged down into his "ball of confusion". If he decides to un-confuse himself and realizes your the one for him then you need to talk unless that happens, you are better off moving on with your own life. As far as the weekend is concerned, don't accidentally on purpose find yourself in the same place where he hangs out. If possible, stay away and just be with your friends. It will be better for you if you don't see him.

Although I do NOT believe NC is the answer for every single situation, I do believe that you should perhaps consider it in your situation.

Yes, he may be confused. If so, why not give him the space and time to think about what he wants so that he is no longer confused?

He already seems to know where you stand in regards to the status of this relationship. What he now needs to figure out is where *he* stands and what he wants.

So try NC.

In the meantime, you can also utilize this time to think about what you want out of a relationship.

Also you may also wish to give some thought as to if YOU yourself want to be in a relationship with someone who "no longer feels the same way about you" and is "unsure if he wants to be in a relationship with you."

The best way to sort out this confusion and to achieve clarity about the future of your relationship is to contemplate on your own, without allowing his confusion to muddy up your thought process.

Just a thought.

You should act totally uninterested in him. Dont ask him if hes regretting his decision. Then he knows he still has you hanging on, and that he can come back when he wants. If you act confident and have minimal contact with him maybe he'll realise what hes missing and make the mature decision to get with you again. But if he does think very long and hard about it because he left you out of nowhere before!

If he doensnt want you back after a few weeks, start goign out with your friend etc and maybe you'll find the perfect guy

Good luck