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Tom is his birthday and I really don't want to send him any text message or greeting cards. It would be fake on my part to deny the hurt that still remains in my heart. But all my friends have been asking me to send him just a simple happy birthday text, so he knows I have moved on. But I really don't care, I don't want to send any signals. I just want to lead my life.

because if I do text him and he doesn't respond back I will be a mess again and I have really moved on a lot.What shud i do ? Shud I send a simple text and expect no reply or just plain ignore.

Just plain ignore. This is the way to show him you've moved on if you text him, he'll know you're still thinking about him.

thats what even I wanna do because after over a month of NC if I text him, he'll know I remember him still and I dun wanan him to know it.

Agreed! I'm sure he'll have lots of other "happy birthday" wishes, and you have nothing to prove.

What you think is the best for you means it is really the best for you, so if you think it can make you a mess later and if you feel you don't want to send then you shouldn't send anything, it doesn't matter what other people say because they will never be in the shoes of you and they can't feel how you feel.

I agree, I wouldn't do it and I don't think you should worry about being bad person. You just worry about yourself and your life now, not his. This is not being bad its being good to yourself.

I had such great plans this year to make his birthday special.I wanted to gift him a watch he always wanted. I wanted to bake a cake for him. Go on a long drive, then watch a movie and cuddle up everything is welling up now.

Don't even think you're bad. You're sane!

I have sent texts to my ex-BF on his b-day, thinking he'd be hurt if I didn't show him I cared. So yeah. What happened? He didn't even reply to them, and I was left feeling like an idiot. Once again. This was a couple of years ago, but I think it still holds relevance.
So, save yourself even the slightest risk of feeling humiliated: don't send him anything!

there is nothing wrong in NOT sending a birthday wish. You gave it your all back when you were together and he ultimately broke up with you. You therefore owe him nothing.
But what I would suggest is taking that money that would have been spent on him and splurge a little on yourself, you deserve it

This is one time your friends need to lay off and respect your comfort level right now. Do not send anything and don't feel poorly about it. Your healing progress is all yours don't jeopardize that.