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Heres' my story. I will spare some of the details.

She broke up with me about a month ago to this day actually. Stating "it wasn't working" When clearly it was the best it had been ever. She dumped me days before our 6 month over the phone. I told her that she made a mistake, then we got back together, then two days later she dumped me again over the phone. She kept saying " I don't know what to do" blah blah.

After a few days she invited me to her house for pizza becuase that's what she loved to do for me. Make me pizza. She stated she just missed me that's why she invited me over. Well that just made things worse becuase it got my hopes up. Two days later I asked if I could talk to her.. we went to her house and talked for an hour. I dressed up in my best clothes , her favourite cologne and looked great, and spilled my feelings to her. She didn't say much but "you're a great guy.. i care for you deeply" but at the end of the nigth she just said "I don't think we should see or talk to each other"

So that started no contact so I thought. She called me crying a couple times saying I was the only one that would understand her but she would never admit what she was crying about. Meanwhile I told her her calling me was stabbing me in the heart 8 times overand giving me hope, and she said she wouldn't call again.

We talked on msn a few times and they were ok, then some days she would give me one word answers and seemed angry at me for some reason. Then is where the 15 days of no contact happend. It was her birthday on saturday and I decidede to give her a quick call to say happy bday. I did. she really appreciated it and unblocked me from msn and we had a decent.
She told me she appreciated the phone call again, and then she started talking about how her career path h ad changed. All the time we were together and leading to the break up she was worried about going to pre med etc and that she would be busy constantly. I got the feeling that may have contributed to the break up. So this is where i'm at right now.. the last contact I had with her was on her birthday 3 days ago and it was a good convo.

I feel this is a step in the right direction either way, becuase it seems her mind has cleared up immensely. I also feel that my mind has cleared hugely and I have learned so many things about myself and things I will never do again to mess a relationship up. So that's another positive.

I would just like some advice on what the best course of action would be to subtly go about getting closer to her again. I think the birthday phone call was a good step forward.

Thanks in advance everyone. This has been incredibly tough on me and I love her to death and absolutely know she is the one. This is not our first love's or anything either. WE've both had quite a few bf's and gf's and serious ones.

I had one of over 2 years , she had ones around 6 month ish.

they key i think is just be patient..and try to rebuild positive moments, try not to talk about the relationship, and see were it goes take it one day at a time

she is playing a game! leave her put yourself on a N/C with this lady.

she is messing with your head, and she thinks it's fun she keeps telling you she doesn't want anything to do with you, but then a few days later calls you saying she made a mistake i will predict 1 of 2 things,

1 she doesn't want you, but she also wants to keep you around just in case .
2 she doesn't want you, she wants someone else, and that someone else is jerking her around.

either way, what's going on is definatly not healthy and if i were you, i would get myself out of that situation for a while so i could breathe and clear my head to see reality.

I think at first when i was really trying to get back with her immediately after she broke it of. I was definately scaring her she was very guarded in our conversations at times, and still is now. She is a bit less now. So I think I need to move on, and just be there whenever she wants to talk. Show her the change in myself (which is huge) actually it really is and it's up to her in the end. I know she still cares deeply and asks how i'm doing etc.I think the change is starting to show through.

I think she's already tested me.. one of the sticking popints and reasons for dumping me I think was my reactions with jealously and anger sometimes with issues so I need to prove i've changed that. Which I really have.

She's keeping her "friendship" options open. I'm sorry to say the major impression I'm getting from all of this is that she just doesn't have the physical attraction for you anymore. You're an understanding cuddly toy that she loves alright, but not in that way. That's very hard if not impossible to get back.

If you stick around "for her", she'll hang on to you for emotional support until somebody else comes along that she has that feeling for.

Your ages go against you too and the fact that she's going to college where her world and options will expand. All factors against you, beyond the biggest physical one.

Do yourself a favour and walk away from this one. If you don't you're going to have heartache aplenty.

Where do you get physical from? I don't agree at all. I know her incredibly well. That was never an issue and our sex life was absolutely amazing. She was self concious about her body huge!

That's just the impression I'm getting, as well as the upcoming changes in her life and her general confusion. Are you still physical when you meet or is it all about friendship and her problems? Hugs don't count so much.

Well it's been just over a month that we've been broken up now. Ive seen and talked to her twice in person. both times were right after it happened. Within a week.

Both times she initiated a long hug. One 5 minutes, the other a couple minutes. And kept repeating how much she cares about me. Etc that's it. I kissed her neck while hugging, she liked it. Again our physical relationship was fabulous.

Ive talked to her maybe 3 times on instant message in the past 3 weeks. And the one brief happy body phone call, which seemed to open her up a bit because she unblocked me. She also keeps giving hints that she's sad "i need cheering up" blah blah.

I'm probably reading too much into it, but i know she always turns her computer off at night when she goes to bed (from seeing it) and Sunday night she came online i didn't' message her.she didn't message me but she left her instant message on all night, I woke up at 6 to go to work and it was still on. Weird coincidence or maybe seeing if I would contact her. I don't know.

Oh yeah. I forgot to mention last weekend she called my cell but it was off, and then i texted her and she denied even calling me then later calling it an "accident" because i replied 5 hours later. I don't know if she was embarrassed or not. I know she had a horrible weekend that CANADIAN thanksgiving weekend and she almost called me the next day but just swore a bunch and went off line.

I just had somewhat of a "revelational" thought about something and the breakup.

I mean just days before she broke up with me, she couldn't stop talking and planning what we were going to do for our 6 month endless.

I remember her telling me something though.

Her last relationship had lasted 6 months (that was her longest) and a day after their 6 month he went and broke up with her becuase he said he didn't love her anymore. Do you think that she got scared becuase of our couple arguments in the weeks previous that she felt I may break up with her, so she wanted to do it before me? Maybe she was just scared that after that, it wouldn't be any stopping.
so many thoughts go into my head. during the day and i need to tell them.