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I feel like I've got myself back to square one in a way.. Yesterday was his birthday party and even though I wasn't invited I texted him saying it would have been nice to spend some time with him on his special day. He instantly called me saying he wants me to come. He said he wasn't sure if I was keen on meeting him. So I went for the party. I met him almost over a month and it felt nice to see him. We had a few drinks with common friends, danced our butts off and had a chill time. After that I drove him back home, and thru out the journey he kept getting calls from his current love. It drove me nuts to hear him sweet talk and things on the phone. But I was clearly to blame I cud have stayed away.


Later he messaged me saying , "IT WAS REALLY NICE TO MEET YOU. TAKE CARE".I replied saying, "LETS TRY AND MEET AGAIN" to this he never replied


Now I have started missing him again and think I wasn't ready for full contact. I am going back to my NC I like my solitude and loneliness now. Some how I've come to realize he's the only guy I can spend my life with. I've tried hard to meet and date others but nothing compares to him. Sigh.

you love to put yourself through it, don't you!?

"Some how I've come to realise he's the only guy I can spend my life with. I ve tried hard to meet and date others but nothin compares to him. Sigh."

I think this an aspect that most of us struggle with most of all. That we will never ever meet anyone who will come close them. But this is crazy - it makes no sense whatsoever - there are 6 billion people wandering about on this Earth - there IS someone out there for you - someone BETTER. But you have to get your head back on straight first - get over the other person, otherwise you will have clouded vision and just make unfair comparisons - you will try to replace the other person and that's not how it is meant to work.

Give yourself a break fella - don't keep setting yourself back like this because if you do, you will just keep yourself in the same sucky boat.

I really felt like I have moved on but that's only when I am on my own The real test is when I meet my EX and I was fine with him we really had a good time making me build up more expectations in the process. Its pointless now since he's with his ex. I need to get realistic. Its over and done with. What is dead can't be bought back to life.

You know he's with someone yet you are still trying to get him to meet up with you? For what? You need to accept that he's NOT yours anymore and move on.

Btw, werent you laughing at him a few weeks back about the fact that his bf or ex bf or whatever was moving away so why do you care now? I thought "karma was biting him in the azz"

i was i thought he was moving away, but they are still together.I know I am to blame in this. Totally my bad. Didn't know where to vent so put it here. I know my behavior's is self damaging and I need to get my act together. I need to realize I can't have hope.

respect to you for coming on here and fessing up!

You can have hope - but f- keep walking forward because when you try to walk backwards you look kind of foolish as you keep tripping over stuff! Hope that is taken in the good natured way it was intended!

That is the thing - be realistic about this. And spare a thought to your self respect - be a bit kinder to yourself.
- really do it this time!

Now dont dwell over that you made a mistake. Dont look back on this event as you dont intend to look back on the breakup. Keep moving forward and forget this has ever happened. Dont be harsh on yourself. Take care.

seeing him is like a cheap drug to you now. you're happy when you see you - it's the high. then he leaves and you come to the realization that he's moved on and you're alone - the low. stop it now. you'll only hit the low again.

you posted here a few days ago asking if you were a bad person if you didn't wish you ex a happy birthday, to which most of us responded that no, you are not a bad person and that it would be in your best interest not to do so.

I'm sorry to say I think you knew what you were getting yourself into. NC isn't easy, it takes self-control.

had decided against wishing him but somehow gave in that late evening when thoughts of him crept my mind.I should have stayed away. But now no point in mulling on the past, as you guys say move on and learn from the past. He's gone and am still here. So that says a lot. And yes I need to inculcate self-control. Loads of it!