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3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked

Hey.

Yes, you read that right. I've been dating a girl for three years and I've never seen her naked. She's unbelievably insecure, and for a long time I thought I could help her appreciate herself (I think she's gorgeous) and maybe get her to recognize that she has no reason to be so self-conscious.

But I can't take it anymore.

I feel like an ***hole, but I'm tired of waiting until after 9pm, when it's dark, and turning out all the lights to have sex. I'm a fit, attractive, athletic guy; my last relationship was so completely charged with sexual energy, and I honestly miss that. I've tried so hard to help this woman appreciate herself the way I appreciate her but I fear it'll never change. I don't want to spend the rest of my life waiting for 9 o' clock.

Advice and/or personal experience appreciated. I don't know how to fix this - and I'm just not happy as it is. I'm not some crazed sex-fiend, I care a lot about her, I just miss spontaneous passion hell, I'd kill for sex in the morning. The saddest part, is that she's such a great person - just so terribly insecure.

uhmm get her drunk and maybe she'll loosen up a bit? lol
3years is an awfully LONG time for her to STILL be insecure being naked around you
I suggest she sees a therapist, maybe the issue goes a little deeper? Maybe this issue affects her a lot more than you know.
Talk to her about it. Reassure her that you love her and think she's beautiful no matter what.
If she doesn't change there's not much you can do.. either stick around bcuz you love her, or get out bcuz the only thing that's important to you is morning sex

must suck when daylight saving savings time comes around in the summer huh? Sorry I mean not to make light of your situation (pun intended, lol). Must say this is the first I've heard of a situation such as this. i can understand in the beginning her being a little concerned and insecure about this but 3 years!? Wow man, that's rough. Is she heavy by chance and you're not? Then I could see her apprehension. Have you tried talking to her about it and constantly re assuring her that you find her sexy?

3 years is a long time and congrats on being so patient and this is just my opinion alot of gals feel that same insecurity however.this is extreme and the longer you go along with it the worse it is for her in the long run.she should maybe check out some professional help with your support

Firstly, I just want to say that you are a very rare and a goodhearted man.All men seem to be jerks.But you have been patient for so long.That is really nice of you.Why don't you convince her to go and see a psychiatrist?Make sure it's a female psychiatrist though. With a female, she will be comfortable.Something might have happened in her past that makes her feel so insecure in front of men. I'm dead sure it was something that happened when she was very young(could be when she was just a kid).That is why it has made an impact on her.She needs to see a psychiatrist very soon. Since it's been the same way for 3 years, I don't think you are the right person to deal with her.She needs therapy.Goodluck

I read an article not too long ago on women that were molested as kids. Well it was said that, inspite of making up their minds on having sex with a man in the future, they could not tolerate men seeing them naked.Did something like that happen to her? You say she is very attractive, so why is she insecure?You need to know about her past before you go any further.Goodluck again!Don't worry, I'm sure she will be fine.Every problem has a solution.Just stay positive.There is always hope.

This has very little to do with sex, morning sex, or anything based solely on MY wants. What bugs me is it makes the entire relationship feel less intimate. Like "I don't trust you enough to see me like this because". I've done everything I can think of to reassure her, I'm caring, loyal, patient, etc. but I've reached my breaking point, and I wonder if anyone else has had similar experience and/or suggestions.

She's seriously an extremely attractive woman. I just don't understand. We've talked about this, I don't know why she feels the way she does, I'm sure she's not even 100% sure. It just occurred to me that this will most likely never change. And that sucks.

Did you try lighting candles and trying to light the room a little more each time?

Then adding more candles as time goes by to make it brighter & lighter for you.

This may make her more secure without her feeling there is 'too much light' on her.

But it be enough to make her feel more secure about her body

Or maybe buying her some nice semi sheer undies so she feels 'covered up'

But so that the underwear is more revealing to you and your needs also?

I understand you have been so patient so far & that is great

But surely she is worth just a little more time and effort.

You can't help her. She needs some clinical help to understand why it is she feels such negative self image. If you love her, which it sounds like you do, then you have to tell her your true feelings how this is affecting you and offer her to get help and reassure her you will support her through the counselling. If she chooses not to get help, then I think you know what you have to do. I hope you can get this worked out, you seem to care about her very much otherwise.

I am assuming that she is fairly young. Even with that it sounds to me as though she is not comfortable with her body and/or her sexuality. I would wager to say that she has some pretty serious issues here that would require well probably professional help of some kind. My best to both of you good luck.