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I bumped into my ex tonight at a local club for Halloween. People remember my story I hope.

She dumped me 2.5 months ago and then 5 weeks later, she start seeing this guy from England and he visited US (she planned this before we broke off). She never told me seeing this guy but I knew this guy while we were together for a year just as a friend only. She never called me for my day 2 weeks ago and we have been jercy for 5 weeks.
So we walk in this club with my sister, we were talking about it before what if we see her there etc.I was expecting really though.

Then, boom!, as we walk in, I see her sitting with her sister on the bar dressed up like last year. I got shocked little bit and then hug both her sister and her and said hi each other.Then went to bar to get a drink immediately.It was very awkward and did not know what to do at the moment but we started dancing with my sister and having fun.

At least I was trying to act that I was having fun.

Then, a girl came by and wanted to dance with me in mean time, my ex and her sister dancing other side of the bar but glancing occasionally.

The girl that I am dancing started get too close and then things happened and she kissed me. I was trying to be cautious not make a seen and I stayed away.

Apperantly she saw what happened and she came by say goodbye and she said that she could not stand watching me kissing her.I said I am sorry then she said she could not call for my bday and she said "good to see you doing well".

Anyways, while she is walking out and I asked "can we talk just a minute". Then, I told her that it hurtled me her seeing some else that I know of. Then, I asked her blank straight out whether she is really seeing someone else?She never answered my question.She said that the things would never work between us that's it and she left.

Then I sent her a text to say " very good to see you and never meant that happen" Then I received a text right away, "don't worry. You look very good as always. I am glad to see you doing well. I just could not stand to watch it. sorry. tell my sister goodbye and take care of yourself please.

That's all.I talk to my buddies at the club and they all said it is better this happened because she must have got jealous. But I came home and I am feeling terrible. She might be thinking that I slept with the other girls which should not matter or none of her biz but my heart is saying No.

I feel like I blew up all of my chances for future which was not there anyways but I always had slim hope What should I do? Should I even call her tomorrow or say something?

Thanks all

nothing bad here. Just a little jealousy scene.

Why are you so worried what your ex will think ? She dumped you. You became a free man the moment she let you go. That's part of the deal and she knew it when she took her decision.

She is still responding to your texts. I'd say leave things be for a while and definitely stop apologizing otherwise you're going to get a nasty reaction from her. Let her cool down.

You apologized via text. She acknowledged that. Don't call her now. You are acting as if your ex was still your girl friend, or worse, as if you were the one who left her.

I think I am too nice of a guy.Everyone told me tonight the same thing.I just feel bad because I love her so much and I will take her back and marry her tomorrow even whatever happened with her English guy.It just breaks my heart to hurt her anyways.

Thanks much!

what do you think?

After reading your post I do agree with what your buddies said.

You can do whatever you want in your life. Don't allow your ex to be the controller otherwise how will you be happy? She disrespected you while you both were together by cheating behind your back with that guy without saying a word.

I suggest you don't say anything and make no contact until she contacts you. This terrible feeling you are feeling, 'back then' she should of been the one feeling that terrible feeling. It's not your fault, don't blame yourself. She has got her own life and so do you - make the best of it without her in the way.

Don't call don't text. You are a nice guy but there comes a time when you have to be nice to you first.

I know that you say that you would have her back at the drop of a hat but you have to ask yourself what is in this for you? She has left the building and been with someone else. She has said that you and her would never work.

you need to let this go - as hard as it is. Keep doing what you are doing - keep working on yourself - keep doing things for YOU.

Jealousy thing alright. She seems to be all over the place, one minute she gets irritated over someone else and the next "nothing could work out between you". It sounds like her and English guy are not in the best of places either, because if they were this jealousy wouldn't occur to her at all as she would have moved on. Now don't get me wrong, she doesn't want to get back with you, certainly not at the moment, but you're moving on is getting to her. Walk away and let it get to her more. Though I wouldn't go back to her if I were you, even if the chance came up.

I met my ex last night, on one concert.He was with his new girl friend, and actualy I know her.And he didn't even say hello to me.
Sometimes I don't feel like life is fair, he has new love, I'm stil single and alone.
I thought that I was over him, but I guess it never goes away.
And night after I had a dream about him, that he comes to me saying that he wants me back, and we are happy again as ever.
No meather how much time has gone by, our exs can always find some trace in our mind and heart to activate our past emotions.I didn't regret it for he is not with me now, for he cheated on me, but I feel so sad for our good times have gone for ever, for it had to end, for he wanted it to end.
I felt sadness for my life went wrong way, and for he moved on so soon, and I'm still struglling.
My post has no real advice for you.Just my thoughts about my situation from last night that related me to your emotions.
There is nothing much that we can do about past.We shouldn't be selfdestructive to want things and people that hurt us.We should hope for better future, and lets hope we'll find that happiness soon.

i finished with my boy friend a year ago we'd been going out from 4 yrs. i just wanted to give u some info on what it's like from her perspective. she may be feeling the same as i did.
i do not regret my decision to finish the relationship at all. but of course feelings for someone so close do not just disappear.
i tried to remain friends with my ex. it wasn't fair by me and i shouldn't have done it. by organising to meet up occassionally it just confused us both and made saying goodbye each time very awkward. my reasons for finishing with him hadn't gone away but they were becoming clouded by the way we got on.
in an ideal world she should not contact you again because its obviously confusing you. she's probably still confused. but you must move on without her, put any 'moments' you have between each other down to confusion over old feelings on both sides.
it was probably hard for her to see you with some one else. but maybe you should take the high road here and not contact her again. she'll get the msg and leave you to live your life. you have to start establishing an existance without her and likewise her without you. you will get over her. but ur making it harder for urself by seeing her/contacting her.
while the feelings she once had/still has for you aren't going to disappear overnight the reasons why she finished things are not going to ever disappear either. our just setting ourself up to be disappointed again.

Sam thanks. Yes, all along, it would not work with this English guy because . She is using him to get over me. That also explains why she could NOT answer when I asked her whether she is someone else or not. Also, she is trying to hide the relationship with this guy under friends pictures in facebook but keep ours under and she is not changing her relationship status.

But I also understand that she still have feelings for me but she is very much she is convinced that things would work between in the long run.She is very confused.
I feel terrible this morning.

Guys and Gals,

Need advice here!

I was on a casual date today to get my mind out of her.She was really charming actually. I got more impressed I thought

I think it is telepathic some waves I have or my ex called because she felt bad from Sat night out what I said to her or whatever happened, who knows?she called in the middle of my date.

Of course, i did not answer.She did not leave a message.I saw her she called though she knows about it.

So what should I do?

She may upset me even more if I call her by saying

1. Yes, I am with that English guy, sorry I lied to you and cheated etc.
2. She may ask for something she left here or advice?computer stuff
3. She may be just checking how I am doing since Sat I felt really bad
4.I don't even think about it you all know!

So should I call now (10PM) or wait for tomorrow morning what's up?