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Old 10-31-2007, 02:35 AM
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Default can u trust a girl/boy if she had cheated you

can you trust some one once they cheat?

if a guy or girl cheats can you trust them again and if so how?
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Old 10-31-2007, 02:36 AM
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I agree for all cases of single life. When you are married with kids, there is considerably more "complications."

in general though, I have to put forward that it will be VERY difficult to ever have trust in that person again without very significant love, effort and trust. If you don't have much invested, why risk?
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Old 10-31-2007, 02:37 AM
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yes it's possible, however i wouldn't even want to get to that point, cause like i said cheating is the ultimate betrayel, and i don't want to be with someone who would be willin to break my heart that way. It's completely intentional, because 99% of the time a person KNOWS what they are doing if they say "it just happened" that's BULLSHIT.
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Old 10-31-2007, 02:37 AM
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Some people will look for any excuse to run

And yeah, I am being light hearted, but really, there are so many worse things that someone could do. Especially if you really connect.

Fight for that loved one, dont cower and run!
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Old 10-31-2007, 02:38 AM
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Sorry. It was an accident. I tripped, fell, and stuck my & in her. I don't buy it either SC. Consider the amount of lack of respect it takes to betray someone you say you love for something as trivial as sex.

If the "cheater" really had a more powerful attraction to the OW or OM, they should have the class to leave you first, especially in this age of super-strength diseases. Anything else is IMHO a cop-out.
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Old 10-31-2007, 02:38 AM
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I thought I could handle it once. I told the girl I was with that if she cheated on me to just tell me and I would be cool. I guess I really didn't want to take the chance of being alone. It came to and she cheated on me with her ex. I wasn't as ok with it as I thought I would be, so I dumped her. She tried to come back, but I wasn't going to go there again. There is no reason to cheat.
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the way i look at it is if someone cheats on you they dont carefor you or love you becaus eif they did the whole entire time even before they actually "did the dead" they would think of you and not be able to do it, if they dont care you wouldnt even come into their mind what so ever so anyone that cheats on me can guarantee them selfs single
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Old 10-31-2007, 02:39 AM
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Cheating on a partner is the height of selfishness. You put your urges and desires ahead of not only your partner but of the relationship which has a life all it's own. Relationships need time and attention and care. If you're not willing to take care of them, stay away from relationships. Relationships also require a bit of sacrifice, putting your needs off sometimes, but you make the relationship a priority to prove to your partner that they and the relationship are meaningful to you. Someone who cheats has no self respect and no respect for a relationship or a partner. Who the heck would want to stick around with someone who commits the highest act of selfishness.
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Old 10-31-2007, 02:39 AM
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wait wait wait first of all, if someone was to cheat on me, they would be gone.

but the "once a cheater, always a cheater" is bull everyone is entitled to live and to learn.

you steal something once, doesn't mean your cleptomaniac.

you drink and drive once, doesnt mean your a chronic drunk.

I wouldn't give her a second chance with me, no, but their life isn't over because of it
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Old 10-31-2007, 02:40 AM
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Sure, there is the possibility of living and learning. Chances are the person will cheat again. I'm not a pessimist, but I have never heard of one story where somebody was like "I gave him/her another chance and they've never done it since." I will give the thought some consideration if I ever do hear that.
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