I feel like such a jerk. The guy I am dating and I got to know each other some over the course of about 5 or 6 months before we started dating. When we first met, we were both in other relationships that weren't working out. Eventually we both were single so we dated for about 2 months and I felt I was developing feelings for him and the beginnings of falling in love. But we had some problems around sex and I decided to break it off because of them. We were apart for awhile but he came back It took me awhile but I finally, albeit hesitantly, decided to give it a try. He's changed his behavior a lot and the issues we were having before have not been problems this time around. He tries really hard, and makes lots of attempts to communicate. The problem is, I feel shut down. I don't feel I am in love with him, but he says he is intensely in love with me. I get so frustrated and freaked by the imbalance that I end up being really edge and mean, pushing him away.
My question is, if I am not in love with him now, could those feelings change at this point? Or would I just know if I wanted to be with him, instead of having sort of numb feelings and lack of intense desire to be with him? |