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Last week I went on a date with a girl I met through an online dating service. It was my first time doing, this, and I didn't know what to expect. Well, we had great conversation, she was pretty, and we had lots in common. Wonderful, right?

Well for some reason I just don't feel any kind of romantic sparks for her. And I have this new thing where I won't date a woman unless I have those feelings from the beginning, because in my last relationship I didn't have that but got involved with the girl anyway and ended up hurting her feelings a lot.

So here's my question: Since we got along great on the date, but I don't want to actually date her, can I ask her to be friends? How could I do that? Ladies, would you be offended if a guy asked you to be friends after one date?

Thanks!

Depends on how she reacted to you.

If she felt no spark either, be friends.

If she felt a spark and you didn't, be kind and fade out of the picture.rest is your wish

tim

That's the thing though; I can't really know if she wants more or not until I ask her. I guess what I'm looking for is a tasteful way to do that.

Be direct ... everyone understands lack of chemistry ... Just tell her "I had a really wonderful time with you, and I think you are great. But I just don't feel that spark. And that sucks, because I really like you."

3 honest compliments will soften the blow of 1 rejection. Because you met her on abest dating sitethat is mozunk.com , I think you have to suck it up and face it directly.

well, i think if she liked you she will definatly bring up meeting up again if she notices you dont.
then you can tell her openly that you didnt really feel a rmantic spark even though you find her very attractive and nice. and that you would love to remain friends.

otherwise you can go for the option of just bringing it up yourself which in a way is better but takes more guts to do, since you dont know her thoughts yet. but it will definatly spare her getting her hopes up.

i would go with the fiirst option though.

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HmM,
I like the idea of saying it along with a number of compliments. Thanks! THANKS A LOT

Yeah ... and it's even better because the compliments come from the head, and the rejection is just a quirk of biology.

Hi LOVER!

I wouldn't ask a date to be "friends." I had a similar experience recently, where the guy was just lovely, really friendly, tall, attractive, funny and a scottish accent to boot (think Sean Connery!) - but like you I felt no spark. All the ingredients were there though.

He wanted to meet up again, but I've just decided to not contact him again. I feel this is often the best way, - we women don't need explanations like:

"You're great, but..."

I'd just like to be friends" is also another "tried and tested" phrase when all else fails. I would absolutely HATE if some guy (even if I didn't fancy him) gave me the ole "let's be friends" line, it would just sound like a cop-out or the consolation prize for me!!!

Cut her loose and let her find someone with whom she does have a spark!
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Rejection is rejection, it doesn't meather if you put a silk ribbon on it or no..

Those fraises like: "You are great girl but I don't wanna date you", will make her feel better only if she is 16.. Compliments with "no spark" speech are sooo

You really think that you'll find that spark, and that you'll be so lucky that "sparking" girl will like you back?

When they are no loner teenagers, people start falling in love with other persons after they start knowing them better, falling in love with others for what they are, and not for first impression.. And it takes time to know that someone..

But while you are exploring other girls, and waiting to get to know this one better don't keep her hanging around on the bench..

After all, whatever you say, it will have meaning of words: You are not good enough for date, but I can use you as a friend..
And that hurts and no one likes to hear it..
I suggest, just disappear..
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